I think sometimes you need time and distance to fully understand an act or omission to reach a point where you can properly choose to forgive or perhaps to simply adjust a relationship so that act/omission does not overly impact your life. It is not always necessary or healthy to forgive. In a sense the act will form part of your new Bayesian prior or knowledge to allow you to make future judgements about people or things.
I think that’s what the concept of anti-forgiveness can do by neither embracing nor rejecting forgiveness: give space and time while not making one feel a sense of irresolution
I was saddened and a little surprised that Americans whom you know do not ask how you are. I lived in the U.S. for a long time, hence it does surprise me. I wonder if they are too "traumatized" by Trump and the media environment. On the other hand, when I read the NY Times editorials or columns, I can't help but observe how little soul-searching there is from a moral perspective. Unprovoked, the U.S. has just killed thousands... exclamation point! It is absolutely startling. And then, who in the U.S. even mentions "reparations?" William Burns, a former top diplomat, wrote a recent column showing no moral soul searching and no sense of reparations due. I read the Iranian regime's reason for wanting to tax each ship $2 million is in place of reparations. The devastation from all that bombing must be enormous.
I think sometimes you need time and distance to fully understand an act or omission to reach a point where you can properly choose to forgive or perhaps to simply adjust a relationship so that act/omission does not overly impact your life. It is not always necessary or healthy to forgive. In a sense the act will form part of your new Bayesian prior or knowledge to allow you to make future judgements about people or things.
I think that’s what the concept of anti-forgiveness can do by neither embracing nor rejecting forgiveness: give space and time while not making one feel a sense of irresolution
Thank you for sharing those thoughts Naghmeh, painful and conflicting as they are.
I will share with you the fact that I believe Trump is a sick, evil man who is ruining America and causing all kinds of problems internationally.
And I hope all your friends and family are safe.
I was saddened and a little surprised that Americans whom you know do not ask how you are. I lived in the U.S. for a long time, hence it does surprise me. I wonder if they are too "traumatized" by Trump and the media environment. On the other hand, when I read the NY Times editorials or columns, I can't help but observe how little soul-searching there is from a moral perspective. Unprovoked, the U.S. has just killed thousands... exclamation point! It is absolutely startling. And then, who in the U.S. even mentions "reparations?" William Burns, a former top diplomat, wrote a recent column showing no moral soul searching and no sense of reparations due. I read the Iranian regime's reason for wanting to tax each ship $2 million is in place of reparations. The devastation from all that bombing must be enormous.
Please find comfort talking with friends.
شعر
only in comment sections do our burdens have reprieve
silent conversations with family (American, Iranian)
violent tax days come and go
forgiveness isn't possible until there is acceptance
acceptance isn't possible until threats are stopped
threats are not stopped